Quite often we refer to emotions as good and bad. By labelling emotions this way, we place a negative connotation on the emotions that may feel unpleasant for us, like anger.
Reframing the way in which we label emotions can be helpful in removing negative stigma attached to any of our emotions. We like to refer to emotions as pleasant or unpleasant.
All emotions, whether pleasant or unpleasant, serve a purpose and are crucial for our survival, including anger.
If you hear someone screaming and yelling with clenched fists are you likely to listen?
Sometimes, anger can send the message to stay away. Quite often this can be what the person experiencing this unpleasant emotion needs. For the most part, it’s important to acknowledge that anger lets us know that someone has overstepped our boundaries and to feel safe and comfortable we need some space. However, even as we acknowledge this, it’s important to communicate assertively what we are angry about at a time when we are calm and ready to express ourselves respectfully.
Now that we understand a little more about what message anger may be sending let’s try and practice using the words pleasant and unpleasant when we refer to emotions. This can make a huge change in the way in which we think about certain emotions especially those that feel unpleasant.
Remember all emotions are ok, they send us a message so we can react in a way that keeps us safe and thriving.
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